Over The Oxer

Nerves, Nominations, Oxers and NLP: my story

🎙️ In this solo episode of Over the Oxer, I’m doing something a little different—sharing my own story. From being a pony-mad preschooler in Warrington to riding across the Kansas prairies, I talk about my lifelong love of horses, the bumps along the way, and how mindset work transformed my confidence in the saddle.
I've also a very exciting announcement: Over the Oxer has been named a finalist in the Equestrian Media category at the Equestrian Business Awards! Plus, I invite you to take part in a special workshop I’m offering to thank those who leave a review. If you’re curious about my horsey roots, how I overcame fear through NLP, or what I love beyond the arena (hint: beaches, history, and ice cream), this episode is for you.
(If you write a 5* review, please email me at info@traceycolenlp.com or contact me via social media [see below] as I may not see your review - and, of course, I'd love to read what you have to say!)
 
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Chatting with Equestrian Tai Chi Expert Jenny Pim

Sometimes you chat with people for the first time and you just click. That was how I felt when Jenny and I had this fabulous chat. Jenny Pim lives in Co Wexford in Ireland with her husband, dogs and ponies. She's the founder and creator of Equestrian Tai Chi and Tao Riding (pronounced dao, rhymes with take a bow or bough of a tree.) She loves helping humans develop a deeper connection with their horses through developing their internal energy or chi.
 
Jenny is a Certified Tai Chi Instructor registered instructor with The Tai Union for Great Britain. She’s been teaching Tai Chi since 2002. She’s won silver medals in the British Open Tai Chi Championships. She’s a Certified Riding Coach registered with Horse Sport Ireland.
 
She's also one of life's totally genuine all-round good guys. Take a listen, it'll be worth it!
 
Jenny's links
https://www.facebook.com/EquestrianTaiChi 
https://www.instagram.com/equestriantaichi_tao_riding/ 
https://www.equestriantaichi.com/ 
https://www.equestriantaichi.com/five-tips/ 
 
 
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Predict Success: The Neuroscience-Backed Path to Better Riding

This episode explores predictive coding, a powerful psychological model that explains how the brain generates expectations based on past experiences, emotional states and environmental cues. For equestrians, these predictions can unconsciously influence posture, tension, decision-making, and even horse–rider communication—often reinforcing fear-based or limiting patterns. Learn how this can be turned on its head to help riders re-programme their brain’s default responses and ride with greater calm, clarity, and confidence.
 
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Next NLP Master Practitioner Training:
 
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Chatting with Ridercise Founder Clare Gangadeen

What's the one thing that if you stopped doing, would improve your stability, effectiveness and confidence in the saddle?
 
Find out from Ridercise Founder, Clare Gangadeen. As a human soft tissue therapist, avid rider and with over 20 years of experience in the fitness industry, Clare in known for her expertise in helping riders overcome their limitations in mind and body to reach their highest potential in the saddle. Clare, who offers expert coaching and bespoke programmes, lives in Shropshire with her husband, seven cats and four Friesian mares.
 
Contact Clare
www.ridercise.co.uk
www.facebook.com/ridercise
www.instgram.com/ridercise365
 
Contact Tracey
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Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training:
 
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Next NLP Master Practitioner Training:
 
NLP Only. Starts 18th June. Every Wednesday 1:30-5pm. Recordings made available. NLP Practitioner or Coach as pre-requisite. https://traceycolenlp.com/product/nlp-master-practitioner-coach/
 
NLP Trainers Training:
 
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Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook:
 
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Are those physical aches telling you something about your mind?

Well, are those physical aches telling you something about your mind? In certain cases, yes, physical aches and pains reveal something about your mind that we need to pay attention to. Find out which aches and pains are telling us something about our mind and what to do about the pain and the reveal. 
 
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Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training:
 
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Next NLP Master Practitioner Training:
 
NLP Only. Starts 18th June. Every Wednesday 1:30-5pm. Recordings made available. NLP Practitioner or Coach as pre-requisite. https://traceycolenlp.com/product/nlp-master-practitioner-coach/
 
NLP Trainers Training:
 
1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/
 
Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook:
 
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Confident-Rider-Mindset-Riding-Success/dp/B0BMPLCB7Z/ref=sr_1_1?crid=6KCWM6D43BT2&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.4pkr-o3d2vf5lIXP8ZO4GQ.ZAOQQmJLBq1ZoSiq1ytb3423Zz3p0mqdZfHY4IIjauM&dib_tag=se&keywords=confident+rider+mindset+tracey+cole&qid=1746616441&sprefix=confident+rider+mindset+tracey+cole%2Caps%2C91&sr=8-1

Perimenopause, menopause and PMT: the impact on confidence

In this episode, we explore how hormonal changes during pre-menstruation, perimenopause, and menopause can impact rider confidence. We break down the science behind oestrogen levels, cortisol spikes, adrenal fatigue, blood sugar crashes, and liver function — and how these influence mindset, anxiety, and body regulation in the saddle.
 
■ Free Download: Hormonal Rider Confidence Cheat Sheet A printable 2-page PDF with insights, diagrams, and daily strategies to support your confidence through hormonal shifts. Email me info@traceycolenlp.com for a free copy
 
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with another rider. You can also tag me on social media and let us know how your confidence shifts throughout your cycle — let’s keep the conversation open and empowering.
 
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Chatting with Holistic Vet Dr Renee Tucker

Today's episode warmly welcomes Dr Renee Tucker DVM. Renee has been a holistic equine veterinarian for over 30 years, and is the creator of Tucker BioKinetic Technique -- an energy healing modality anyone can learn. We chat about how Renee learned how to blend her scientific veterinary and chiropractic knowledge with the use of energy for healing, leading her to write her book, Where Does My Horse Hurt? and create the Tucker BioKinetic Technique.
 
Dr Renee's Websites & YouTube Channel
www.tuckerbiokinetic.com
https://www.wheredoesmyhorsehurt.com 
(Sign up for Renee's free email series '50 Horse Secrets')
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCy73JEvBt2NfEaGKrH2ni8Q 
 
Dr Renee's Book
Where Does My Horse Hurt - available on Amazon
 
Contact Tracey
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Soothe the Storm: Reset Your Rider Mindset

Feeling a bit meh after a tricky ride or after hearing a comment about your ride that stuck with you? In this episode, we explore how equestrians can use gentle techniques to soothe minor frustrations and come back to balance—on and off the horse. Join me for a simple, guided practice you can do anywhere, designed to calm your body and refocus your mind.
Contact me if you'd like a free PDF of this episode!
If this episode helped you, I’d be so grateful if you’d leave a 5-star review —it helps more riders like you discover these mindful tools. 💛
 
You might like this qi gong video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T34k14DSjkk&list=WL&index=20 
 
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Chatting with The UK's No. 1 Equestrian Video Coach, Jay Hunt

You're in for a real treat on this episode, as it's packed with tips and tricks from the UK's no. 1 equestrian video coach, Jay Hunt.
 
Jay is the CEO abd founder of Equine Video Pro. She has over 30 years of TV and video experience and is a horse owner and grass roots eventer. She combines her video skills with her passion for horses to help equestrians shine online.
She specialises in teaching busy equestrians how to use their smartphones to capture engaging video content to grow their business. She says, "I am passionate that people should not get left behind and my clients range from people who can hardly turn on their phone to content creators wanting the latest AI tips. Wherever you are in your video journey I share straightforward, practical tips that make your content stand out."
 
And, I have to say, with paid-for resources starting at just £7, plus lots of free resources, I think she's doing just that.
 
 
Contact Jay
jay@equinevideopro.com
https://www.equinevideopro.com/ (click on the menu for free resources)
https://www.instagram.com/equinevideoprouk/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/violetproductions/
 
Contact Tracey
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The Equestrian Time Traveller: Mindset Lessons from History

What if the secret to fearless riding was hidden in the past?
In this unique episode, we travel through time to uncover the mindset strategies of history’s greatest horsemen—from the fearless Mongol warriors and disciplined Samurai to the legendary Joan of Arc and the grit-driven cowboys of the Wild West.
How did these riders master their fear, sharpen their focus, and build an unbreakable bond with their horses? And more importantly—how can you apply these ancient techniques to your modern riding? Tune in for a fresh perspective on equestrian psychology! 🌍✨ #EquestrianMindset #RideLikeAWarrior #FearlessRiding
 
Hakalau episode
https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-xi6vq-146519b
 
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Chatting with equestrian, psychotherapist, counsellor and coach, Nadia Di-Luzio

Nadia is a Psychotherapist and Coach, who left a successful corporate career of 28 years, the last decade of which was as a Head of People to focus on supporting individuals mental and emotional wellbeing.
 
Why? Those incredibly powerful words, stay home, stay safe issued on 23 March 2020 changed the course of her career as employees were needing emotional support as well as practical career guidance. And she felt she wasn't equipped to support them. Around a full time job, she retrained as a Counsellor and Psychotherapist, graduating in June '24, before updating her coaching qualifications with Tracey, to add NLP Practioner Coach to her expertise and experience. 
 
Nadia is also a keen horsewoman and talks about her horses and overcoming mindset obstacles.
 
Contact Nadia
Nadia offers free introductory chats to all prospective clients as standard. You can drop her an email on nadia@themindfulbusinessco.com to book in.
 
On socials: @themindfulbusinesscompany
Webpage: www.themindfulbusinessco.com 
 
Contact Tracey
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Lighten the Load: Break Free from Riding Pressure

In today’s episode, we’re tackling a huge topic that every rider faces—pressure. Whether it’s competition nerves, training stress, or just the relentless drive to always be better, it’s easy to get stuck in a cycle of self-imposed expectations.
But what if there was a way to lighten that load? We’re diving into Peter Sage’s powerful mindset framework: to me, by me, through me, and as me. These four stages of consciousness can completely change how you view pressure, shifting you from feeling overwhelmed to finding flow and connection with your horse.
If you’re ready to change how you think about pressure and transform your mindset, hit play now! 🎧
Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your fellow riders who could use a mindset boost. Let’s lighten the load together!
 
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Chatting with Marcello Costante

On this episode  we chat about the remarkable journey of Marcello Costante—a real estate investor, community builder, entrepreneur, and athlete. Marcello shares how his unconventional path from being a metal singer to an 800-metre runner shaped his mindset and transformed his approach to both business and life.
Marcello opens up about why he believes that focusing on goals can sometimes do more harm than good, more than that, it's a type of deception. Sometimes, he syas that the best results come from letting go of goals. Instead, he advocates for a mindset rooted in passion, resilience, and living in the present—a philosophy that led him to unexpected successes and a more balanced life.
We also discuss how Marcello’s background in sports influenced his entrepreneurial spirit and the importance of building habits before pushing limits. Whether you’re an athlete, entrepreneur, or someone looking to find your stride, this episode is packed with insights on balancing ambition, being curious and embracing the process over the outcome.
 
Marcello's free High-Performance Paradox Resource
https://denofcoaches.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/The-High-Performance-Paradox-Checklist-Journal.pdf
 
Contact Marcello 
https://denofcoaches.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcellocostante/
https://www.instagram.com/costantemarcello/
 
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What if mindset work isn't working?

Why isn't mindset work working for you?
What if you're practising mindset techniques, but they're not working?
What if you hate journalling or can't visualise?
 
Find out on this episode!
 
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What USSR athletes knew about mindset....

 
In this episode, we chat about into the fascinating book Peak Performance: Mental Training Techniques of the World's Greatest Athletes by Charles Garfield. Originally published in 1985, this book explores the mental strategies that helped elite USSR and Eastern Bloc athletes reach the pinnacle of their careers—many of which are very relevant today.
We break down key insights, including:
🏆 The power of mental training vs. physical training—spoiler: mindset matters more than you think!🎯 The role of visualisation in success, and a mind-blowing Soviet study that proves it.💡 How goal setting, self-talk, and emotional regulation can make or break performance.🧠 The importance of resilience and learning to see failure as a stepping stone.
Whether you're an equestrian, athlete, or just someone looking to level up mentally, this episode is packed with takeaways!
 
🔗 Check out past episodes
Episode 119 - Harnessing the power of failure https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/over-the-oxer/id1695311010?i=1000678238269
Episode 71 - The flow state https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/over-the-oxer/id1695311010?i=1000650081253
Episode 40 How to get mentally tough https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/over-the-oxer/id1695311010?i=1000632786573
Focus Part 1 https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-pqg7s-145b219 
Focus Part 2 https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-krfat-1465197
Hakalau (keeping calm udner pressure) https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-xi6vq-146519b
Can you envisage visualising? https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-8ed4g-144b048  
 
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