Over The Oxer
All equestrians want to harness mindset know-how and learn the ease of successful riding. On this podcast, I’m demystifying the mind, delving into the best of mindset and debunking myths for equestrians and horse owners. Mindset is the key to solving a host of problems that manifest when we ride, including riding anxiety, self-doubt, limiting belief, imposter syndrome, overwhelm or perfectionism. As an accredited Trainer and Master Coach of NLP and Hypnotherapy, I’ll lead you through the solutions that work for me and my clients.
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Nadia is a Psychotherapist and Coach, who left a successful corporate career of 28 years, the last decade of which was as a Head of People to focus on supporting individuals mental and emotional wellbeing.
Why? Those incredibly powerful words, stay home, stay safe issued on 23 March 2020 changed the course of her career as employees were needing emotional support as well as practical career guidance. And she felt she wasn't equipped to support them. Around a full time job, she retrained as a Counsellor and Psychotherapist, graduating in June '24, before updating her coaching qualifications with Tracey, to add NLP Practioner Coach to her expertise and experience.
Nadia is also a keen horsewoman and talks about her horses and overcoming mindset obstacles.
Contact Nadia
Nadia offers free introductory chats to all prospective clients as standard. You can drop her an email on nadia@themindfulbusinessco.com to book in.
On socials: @themindfulbusinesscompany
Webpage: www.themindfulbusinessco.com
Contact Tracey
Info@traceycolenlp.com
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Tuesday Mar 25, 2025
Tuesday Mar 25, 2025
In today’s episode, we’re tackling a huge topic that every rider faces—pressure. Whether it’s competition nerves, training stress, or just the relentless drive to always be better, it’s easy to get stuck in a cycle of self-imposed expectations.
But what if there was a way to lighten that load? We’re diving into Peter Sage’s powerful mindset framework: to me, by me, through me, and as me. These four stages of consciousness can completely change how you view pressure, shifting you from feeling overwhelmed to finding flow and connection with your horse.
If you’re ready to change how you think about pressure and transform your mindset, hit play now! 🎧
Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your fellow riders who could use a mindset boost. Let’s lighten the load together!
Contact me
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Tuesday Mar 18, 2025
Tuesday Mar 18, 2025
On this episode we chat about the remarkable journey of Marcello Costante—a real estate investor, community builder, entrepreneur, and athlete. Marcello shares how his unconventional path from being a metal singer to an 800-metre runner shaped his mindset and transformed his approach to both business and life.
Marcello opens up about why he believes that focusing on goals can sometimes do more harm than good, more than that, it's a type of deception. Sometimes, he syas that the best results come from letting go of goals. Instead, he advocates for a mindset rooted in passion, resilience, and living in the present—a philosophy that led him to unexpected successes and a more balanced life.
We also discuss how Marcello’s background in sports influenced his entrepreneurial spirit and the importance of building habits before pushing limits. Whether you’re an athlete, entrepreneur, or someone looking to find your stride, this episode is packed with insights on balancing ambition, being curious and embracing the process over the outcome.
Marcello's free High-Performance Paradox Resource
https://denofcoaches.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/The-High-Performance-Paradox-Checklist-Journal.pdf
Contact Marcello
https://denofcoaches.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcellocostante/
https://www.instagram.com/costantemarcello/
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Tuesday Mar 11, 2025
Tuesday Mar 11, 2025
Why isn't mindset work working for you?
What if you're practising mindset techniques, but they're not working?
What if you hate journalling or can't visualise?
Find out on this episode!
Contact me
Info@traceycolenlp.com
www.traceycolenlp.com
Let's be social!
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www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com
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info@traceycolenlp.com
Buy me a cup of tea!
Some kind people have suggested that my podcast is helping them with their riding and asked how they can help to defray the costs of making the podcast, (mostly editing software etc.). Many, many thanks, you can buy me a cup of tea here:
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Tuesday Mar 04, 2025
Tuesday Mar 04, 2025
In this episode, we chat about into the fascinating book Peak Performance: Mental Training Techniques of the World's Greatest Athletes by Charles Garfield. Originally published in 1985, this book explores the mental strategies that helped elite USSR and Eastern Bloc athletes reach the pinnacle of their careers—many of which are very relevant today.
We break down key insights, including:
🏆 The power of mental training vs. physical training—spoiler: mindset matters more than you think!🎯 The role of visualisation in success, and a mind-blowing Soviet study that proves it.💡 How goal setting, self-talk, and emotional regulation can make or break performance.🧠 The importance of resilience and learning to see failure as a stepping stone.
Whether you're an equestrian, athlete, or just someone looking to level up mentally, this episode is packed with takeaways!
🔗 Check out past episodes
Episode 119 - Harnessing the power of failure https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/over-the-oxer/id1695311010?i=1000678238269
Episode 71 - The flow state https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/over-the-oxer/id1695311010?i=1000650081253
Episode 40 How to get mentally tough https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/over-the-oxer/id1695311010?i=1000632786573
Focus Part 1 https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-pqg7s-145b219
Focus Part 2 https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-krfat-1465197
Hakalau (keeping calm udner pressure) https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-xi6vq-146519b
Can you envisage visualising? https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-8ed4g-144b048
Let's be social!
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Buy me a cup of tea!
Some kind people have suggested that my podcast is helping them with their riding and asked how they can help to defray the costs of making the podcast, (mostly editing software etc.). Many, many thanks, you can buy me a cup of tea here: www.buymeacoffee.com/?via=Ny2j49lgXB
Tuesday Feb 25, 2025
Tuesday Feb 25, 2025
Today I have a story for you. It's about Frank Dick, OBE, who served as the Director of Coaching for the British Athletics Federation, earning recognition as one of the most exceptional sports coaches and mentors worldwide. During his tenure, he played a pivotal role in guiding British Athletics through a highly successful period, working with Olympic champions like Daley Thompson, Steve Ovett, and Sebastian Coe. Frank was directly responsible for coaching Daley Thompson and also designed training programs for elite athletes, including Gerhard Berger, Katarina Witt, Boris Becker, and Justin Rose.
An inspiring and motivating coach.....
Contact me
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Free mental imagery / visualisations (no sign-up necessary)
https://traceycolenlp.com/free-mental-imagery-recordings/
Buy me a cup of tea!
Some kind people have suggested that my podcast is helping them with their riding and asked how they can help to defray the costs of making the podcast, (mostly editing software etc.). Many, many thanks, you can buy me a cup of tea here: www.buymeacoffee.com/?via=Ny2j49lgXB
Tuesday Feb 18, 2025
Tuesday Feb 18, 2025
If you know about Anne Gage's work, you'll know that she's a superb riding confidence coach and has many strings to her bow. Listen out for her tips and tricks as we chat about her life with horses and working for over 35 years with riders.
Anne Gage, The Horse Riding Confidence Coach is a specialist in helping mid-life horse riders rein in anxiety, achieve their riding goals, and strengthen their connection with their horses. With a supportive and encouraging approach, over 35 years experience as a riding coach and horse trainer, certified in mindset techniques that build confidence, and being a recovered anxious rider, she provides effective, proven strategies that develop a positive, confident mindset and strengthen the connection between riders and their horses.
Anne is the author of Confident Rider Confidence Horse and has articles published in several equestrian magazines. Anne works with riders from around the world on Zoom in her 1:1 Breakthrough program and group coaching in her membership, The Horse Riding Confidence Club.
Contact Anne
https://confidenthorsemanship.com
Youtube - https://youtube.com/annegage
Facebook group - https://facebook.com/groups/horseridingconfidencegroup
Contact Tracey
www.traceycolenlp.com
info@traceycolenlp.com
Tuesday Feb 11, 2025
Tuesday Feb 11, 2025
John Lewis is a Mindset Coach, working with sporting Individuals and teams, businesses and people in their personal lives helping them to develop and overcome the obstacles stopping them performing at their best. He also runs approved trainings in Mental Health Awareness and Mental Health First Aid.
We chat about John's take on mindset, NLP, visualisation and how anyone can overcome an unhelpful mindset. We talk about doable tips that anyone can start doing right now to improve their outlook and feel more positive. We also find out about a mindset coach's typical day, if there is such a thing!
Where to find John
www.Jlmindsetperformance.co.uk
https://www.facebook.com/JLmindsetperformance
https://www.instagram.com/john_m1nd5et/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-lewis-691917173/
Tuesday Feb 04, 2025
Tuesday Feb 04, 2025
In this final boot camp episode, I share three quick techniques to help equestrians feel more confident and calm while riding. These methods are perfect for managing intrusive thoughts, anticipatory nerves and negative feelings:
Technique 1: The Power of "Stop"
Interrupt negative thoughts and feelings by saying "stop" firmly and repeatedly.
Technique 2:
Instead of focusing on the start of your ride, visualise yourself 15 minutes after the ride, feeling accomplished and relaxed. This helps reduce anticipatory nerves and the fear of becoming frightened.
Technique 3: Peripheral Vision (Hakalau)
Start by practising looking upwards and expanding your vision to a wide field. Keep your vision wide as you bring your eques to eye-level and move your head. This technique helps calm your mind while maintaining alertness, improving focus and communication with your horse.
Bonus:
Consistent practice is key to making these techniques effective.
For more tips, check out The Confident Rider Mindset book or join the upcoming NLP workshop on February 20th.
Links:
More information on the NLP workshop
The Confident Rider Mindset Book
Tuesday Jan 28, 2025
Tuesday Jan 28, 2025
Welcome to the third installment of our equestrian boot camp series. This episode delves into the mental challenges riders face and offers guidance on maintaining motivation and confidence. We explore the concept of plateauing in your riding journey, identifying how the reaching a goal or stepping stone may even sap your drive.
Discover the importance of resilience and self-trust as key elements to prevent stagnation. We'll discuss practical techniques for cultivating these traits, including detaching from high expectations and celebrating even the smallest victories. Through analogies like the marble jar, learn how to visualise and strengthen your trust in yourself.
If you're enjoying my podcast, I'd be so grateful if you could vote for it in the Equestrian Business Awards - https://www.equestrianbusinessawards.co.uk/nominate I'd be in the Equestrian Media category. And thank-you, it means so much to me! I love this little podcast and I hope that by keeping it advert-free and cost-free, more riders can become more confident and enjoy themselves in the saddle!
Tuesday Jan 21, 2025
Tuesday Jan 21, 2025
Welcome to the second boot camp episode specially designed to empower equestrians to build confidence and eliminate self-doubt. In this session, we chat about the concepts of being at cause and being at effect, exploring how these mindsets impact our pursuit of goals and ambitions.
Discover strategies to transition from a passive, reactive state to an empowered, proactive mindset, taking full responsibility for your progress by cultivating effective habits. Learn the importance of small, consistent actions linked to your personal motivation and how they can quietly but powerfully propel you toward your equestrian ambitions.
Join us as we explore different approaches to setting up meaningful habits by connecting them to your 'why' and see how these incremental steps form a strong foundation for your future successes.
If you're enjoying my podcast, I'd be so grateful if you could vote for it in the Equestrian Business Awards - https://www.equestrianbusinessawards.co.uk/nominate I'd be in the Equestrian Media category. And thank-you, it means so much to me!
Tuesday Jan 14, 2025
Tuesday Jan 14, 2025
Welcome to a brand new episode for 2025 - A Boot Camp to get your riding mindset (and performance) shifted! First of all, we delve into the impact of your words on your equestrian pursuits.
On this episode, discover the profound influence of words - those spoken and in your head - on your perception of yourself as a rider.
I'll give you 4 easy ways to change the words to use to change how you think, which changes how you act and ride. From complaining to gossiping, this accumulation of words can stop us from having confident, doubt-free riding.
Become your own best cheerleader in the saddle. Starting with Episode 1 of the Boot Camp. More next week.
Enjoying this podcast? Perhaps you'd be willing to vote for me in the Equestrian Business Awards? I'd be in the Equestrian Media section. Many, many thanks, this would mean the world. https://www.equestrianbusinessawards.co.uk/nominate
Tuesday Jan 07, 2025
Tuesday Jan 07, 2025
Join the conversation with Diana Burgess, a passionate coach and equestrian who has journeyed from Canada to the UK, mentored by renowned riders like Bruce Davidson and Lucinda Green along the way. Diana shares her unique beginnings, love for horses, and how her determination led her to compete at top-level events like Blenheim and Bramham, reaching the long list for the Canadian Olympic team.
Discover how Diana's journey was shaped by family support, her experiences in elite equestrian complexes, and transformative encounters such as her time with Bruce Davidson in the States. Explore the role sports psychology and mindset coaching have played in her evolution as a trainer, providing her students with tailored mental strategies to enhance their riding skills.
Diana delves into the magical world of her beach retreats, combining natural beauty with equestrian adventure, offering riders a unique opportunity for reflection and growth. Learn about her plans for future events and her ongoing commitment to coaching and empowering equestrians worldwide.
Contact Diana
Website:
https://www.dianaburgessequestrian.com/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063586511812
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diana_burgess_equestrian/
Contact Tracey
www.traceycolenlp.com
info@traceycolenlp.com
Tuesday Dec 24, 2024
Tuesday Dec 24, 2024
Welcome to this special Christmas Eve episode, where we focus on becoming more connected with our equestrian dreams. Whether you're by the fireplace or braving the winter chill, join us for a guided visualisation journey. Find solitude and peace as we explore our goals and build renewed focus and confidence in the bustling holiday season.
Envision yourself with your horse in your favourite setting, feeling the bond and harmony in your partnership. Together, we step into an imaginary world of morning light and crisp air, paving the way for a calm, confident riding New Year. This episode helps you connect with your aspirations, grounding you with affirmations of resilience and trust in your journey.
Let this visualisation serve as a reflection as you take these empowering emotions into 2025, solidifying your partnership with your horse and nurturing your potential for growth throughout the coming year.
Contact me
Info@traceycolenlp.com
www.traceycolenlp.com
Let's be social!
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Free mental imagery / visualisations (no sign-up necessary)
https://traceycolenlp.com/free-mental-imagery-recordings/
Free Words Have Power course (no sign-up necessary)
https://traceycolenlp.com/free-course-your-words-have-power/
Buy me a cup of tea!
Some kind people have suggested that my podcast is helping them with their riding and asked how they can help to defray the costs of making the podcast, (mostly editing software etc.). Many, many thanks, you can buy me a cup of tea here: www.buymeacoffee.com/?via=Ny2j49lgXB
Tuesday Dec 17, 2024
Tuesday Dec 17, 2024
I loved chatting with Seonaidh (pronounced 'Shona') Jamieson. She is not only a laugh-a-minute (cue no knickers segment!), but she also has some great advice for how to think differently (she combines equestrianism and pole dancing), how to work with neurodivergence and how she makes her ADHD work for her!
Seonaidh has always been fascinated by the things that stop us doing what we want to do. Author of 'Why You Skipped Your Workout', she rebels against "Just do it" culture and instead seeks to understand the invisible barriers in our lives, and then help you find ways to overcome them. She believes in making the steps easier so your goals become inevitable, and in many cases, that starts with looking at your expectations.
Seonaidh is a business growth coach, combining her years' experience coaching horse riders and pole dancers, her project management experience in the conservation sector, and her 10 years' experience running her own businesses.
Contact and follow Seonaidh
https://www.seonaidhjamieson.com
https://www.linkedin.com/in/seonaidhjamieson/
Seonaidh's book
'Why you skipped your workout': https://www.amazon.co.uk/Why-You-Skipped-Your-Workout-ebook/dp/B0BT618GWF/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3VNKDI752KDZN&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.UbipRTO3EXBZJLWTwDGslHrg4K1eL027_B5IDprduz4.wQrBRaNHfFzOYXiVACIfz_iPELGSf8e-x2Q98lBvw4g&dib_tag=se&keywords=why+you+skipped+your+workout&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1733823898&sprefix=why+you+skipped+your+workout%2Caps%2C75&sr=8-1
Contact Tracey
info@traceycolenlp.com
www.traceycolenlp.com
Socials: @traceycolenlp
Tracey's books
Confident Rider Mindset https://www.amazon.co.uk/Confident-Rider-Mindset-Riding-Success/dp/B0BMPLCB7Z/ref=sr_1_fkmr1_1?crid=3VF9G5BQSS5A3&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.nEnE1CLiv8UAlae_xJSNzQkk-P_U2EFwBKXi4uuj5EDRgiSnwKPk4BJVDDFN16BSroO-Smk5hOwOtAji7Qmc_MEJFPRufzJoL5rKV37upbWSsla3VVblVvpUg9JIQypH.75CnmOOoUydvXjSK3l0U2RxGuzhMNzgvzaIe7zsp3Pc&dib_tag=se&keywords=Tracey+Cole+author&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1733824033&sprefix=tracey+cole+author%2Caps%2C80&sr=8-1-fkmr1
Confident Skier Mindset
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Confident-Skier-Mindset-enjoy-skiing-ebook/dp/B0CW18SYG9/ref=sr_1_fkmr1_2?crid=3VF9G5BQSS5A3&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.nEnE1CLiv8UAlae_xJSNzQkk-P_U2EFwBKXi4uuj5EDRgiSnwKPk4BJVDDFN16BSroO-Smk5hOwOtAji7Qmc_MEJFPRufzJoL5rKV37upbWSsla3VVblVvpUg9JIQypH.75CnmOOoUydvXjSK3l0U2RxGuzhMNzgvzaIe7zsp3Pc&dib_tag=se&keywords=Tracey+Cole+author&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1733824033&sprefix=tracey+cole+author%2Caps%2C80&sr=8-2-fkmr1
About Tracey
I'm Tracey Cole, I coach and train equestrians in mental performance and mindset, although I also work with non-horsey people too. I enjoy working with professional and recreational riders of all levels and specialisms, helping them ride the way they know they can, if only their mind would help them out! I run accredited internationally-recognised trainings for those wanting to become mindset coaches themselves.
You can find out more at www.traceycolenlp.com or email me info@traceycolenlp.com