Over The Oxer

Can nerves ever be a good thing?

When I was at Blenheim, Piggy March was asked, "How do you cope with nerves at big competitions?" and she said, "Well, it all depends on the type of nerves." 
On this episode I delve into
Why do some nerves cause us to lose the ability to think?
Why do some people admit that a whiff of nerves helps their performance? Are they right?
How we can dampen down the nerves
I mention the Hakalau technique which can be found in a previous episode or here: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-xi6vq-146519b
 
 
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When to call in a mindset coach.....

You can absolutely do most mindset changes yourself, without a coach, so why would you want to book a session or series of sessions?!
 
Having a coach can mean that you lose the blocks you know about (anxiety, stress, worry, lack of motivation, self-doubt, self-limiting beliefs to name but a few) and you can eliminate the self-sabotage that you're not aware of.
 
This accelerates how you evolve as a rider. It enhances how you think of yourself and impacts how you ride. Having a coach
expedites your progress!
unleashes blocked creativity
gives you accountability
balances your expectations
opens up your neurology
And, if you seek more therapeutic methods for deeper issues, that can also change you as a rider and change your riding.
Tune in to find out why we might want single sessions, coaching packages, deeper interventions and how to choose the right coach for you.
 
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Perfectionism

Perfectionism can be of two types - the healthy way to work hard towards a goal or the picky, critical, maladaptive style of perfectionism that leads to emotional, mental and physical stress.
Why do some people lean towards perfectionism?
Why do some people find they obsess in an unhealthy way?
What can you do to prevent and stop the unhealthy style of perfectionism?
 
Listen in and let me know what you think!
 
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Outta control????

Do you ever feel out of control when riding? It's a common problem. As long as you aren't over-horsed and your horse hasn't any physical problems, then the idea of being out of control resides mostly in your mind!
On this episode, I'll share some tips for feeling more in control, more of the time.
 
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Mind-body connections to help you ride even better

The mind-body connection is paramount to any rider. This episode is all about how to make your mind and body work together in synergy to get the very best out of you as a rider. 
 
I talk about my favourite (quick & easy) mind-body connection exercises to achieve better communication with ourselves and more importantly, translate that into better riding experiences.
 
1. Grounding (have a listen to this episode for more detail https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-cmhtt-14543bc)
2. Use of peripheral vision (listen to this episode too https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-xi6vq-146519b)
3. Intent
4. Centring yourself
5. Breathing
 
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With Author, Equestrian and Instructor Christine Olsen

On this episode, I chat with Christine Olsen.
 
Christine has dedicated her career to nurturing harmonious connections between horses and riders. With a solid foundation in equitation, she imparts fundamental principles that foster confidence and trust in both horse and rider.
 
As a certified riding instructor with the American Riding Instructors Association and equine sports massage therapist, Christine is a true advocate of the horse-human bond. She writes for The Riding Instructor magazine alongside other projects, and has recently published her book The Five Senses of Horsemanship.
 
Instagram: www.instgram.com/Christine_eqred 
Christine's book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Five-Senses-Horsemanship-human-sense-horse-sense/dp/173733111X
 
 
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Are your emotions from you or from your gut?!

There are so many gut-related sayings: gut feelings, trust your gut, gutted and so on. But is our gut actually governing our mindset? Are the bacteria in your gut impacting what you think and how you feel much more than we expect?
 
It strikes me as astonishing that the bacteria in our gut are responsible for a huge array of neurotransmitters and that 90-95% of our serotonin is found in the gut. How does this change our mood? How does it influence us? Are our thoughts ours or do they belong to our gut bacteria?!!!!
 
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The Negativity Bias

Why do we remember the errors, mistakes and hiccups after a ride far more than the positives?
 
Why can we recall negative comments, insults and hurts more easily than compliments and praise?
 
Why do we still cringe when we think about an embarrassing or humiliating experience?
 
Because our brains have an in-built negativity bias! We're very natural negative nellies. Can we override this factory default setting? Yes, of course, and here's how.
 
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Motivation - keep it for longer!

How do you keep going? What gets you motivated? Can you sustain motivation or are you better at starting something and then your interest wanes?
 
Motivation can be elusive, but it doesn't have to be. Motivation to ride can drop off for reasons we can all sympathise with - bad weather, coming back after a break, perceived lack of progress etc.
 
On the latest Over the Oxer podcast, I'll give you some tips on how to engage your brain in keeping you motivated. Besides having big goals and stepping-stone-goals, I talk about how to keep your brain wired up for motivation!
 
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Motivation and Drive

Motivation and drive - sometimes you have them, sometimes you don't. Your personal motivation could come from your inner voice or could be from a feeling that spurs you on. However, drive is subtly different. It's the energy that propels you. It's what keep you going when the chips are down. Without drive, motivation is more down to will-power and that can drop off easily. Imagine now, though, that drive keeps you going - with or without motivation - drive is the powerhouse - want to know how to get it? Tune in! 

Dislike of people watching - help’s here!

Many riders do not like being watched or having the feeling that someone is watching them. Now I could tell you that most observers aren't actually watching you and that even if they were, they'd be in your corner, but that wouldn't cut it for you, would it? So we need to tackle this with a totally different approach. And here it is! Get your brain in gear and you'll no longer care about those watchers!

The Mandela Effect - do you do it?

You remember Darth Vader saying, 'Luke, I am your father', don't you? Do you really remember that? Really? 
Did you know that our memories are almost always inaccurate, distorted, generalised and possibly the last thing you'd want to rely on?!! What happens if your self-doubt, self-limiting beliefs and anxieties are based on those memories? 

The narcissist on your yard

Dr. Susan Krause Whitburn said, 'Narcissism is a distinct belief in one's own exceptionalism', which I think is brilliant. It really sums it all up. People who show certain traits or come show certain narcissistic behaviours are usually obsessed with an idealised version of themselves and often this is embellished, it's a grandiose image of themselves and they feel a need to sustain that image.
So anything that feeds into that image and glorifies it a bit more, that's what they love. And anything that diminishes that image, that's what they hate. If you can help them to sustain the image, they'll use you!
Now what can we do about these people on our yard who display this type of behaviour?

The cause and effect equation: do you want results or reasons?

The cause and effect equation is a simple concept, yet ever so powerful once you start to use it. Want better results? Want to feel more resilient? Want to feel less swayed by others? Then this is for you.
 
Being at cause means taking back control, being in the driver's seat and being less influenced by other people and events happening around you. The opposite is being at effect. This is giving up all your control to other people, things and events around you. This is disempowering and gives you lots of reasons and excuses, but few results.
 
 

An interview with mindset and energy coach Chantelle Jennison

Chantelle Jennison, founder and owner of Double Clear NLP, works with equestrians to remove mindset blocks and enhance riders' communication and connection with their horses. She uses a blended approach - from NLP to Time Line work and Reiki. 
After finding that her relationship with her own horse improved vastly after learning Reiki techniques, Chantelle was delighted to find that her ridden work also improved massively. Her bond with her horse deepened significantly and she wants to help others to have the same bond with their horses and enhance their riding.
 
Visit her website at 
https://www.doubleclearnlp.co.uk/