Over The Oxer

Equestrians chasing their tails: the myth of multitasking

Multitasking is a complete myth! It's a term meant for computers, not humans. We are more mon-taskers if anything. However, we do strive to multitask and this can be our undoing - it wrecks grey matter, causes anxiety and stress and is ultimately inefficient. Still want to multitask?!
 
 
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With Rhea Freeman - Award-winning PR & social media expert, best selling author and Master NLP Coach

I'm excited to welcome Rhea Freeman onto the podcast. Rhea is a multi-award-winning PR adviser, social media expert, ILM level 7 executive coach and mentor, NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Coach. She hosts the award-winning Small & Supercharged Podcast and has a best-selling book of the same name. She supports small businesses across sectors in their overall development and growth with a special focus on the PR, social media and marketing side.
 
We chat about mindset (Rhea started out life as a riding coach and in business marketing for an equestrian company, so she knows equestrians and equestrian business mindsets!), social media, being a brand ambassador or influencer and maintaining a great mindset whilst on socials.
 
Her book, Small and Supercharged can be purchased at https://www.amazon.co.uk/kindle-dbs/entity/author/B0B52CN591?_encoding=UTF8&node=266239&offset=0&pageSize=12&searchAlias=stripbooks&sort=author-sidecar-rank&page=1&langFilter=default#formatSelectorHeader
 
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Rhea's also on LinkedIn
 

5 Ways to Get Mentally Tough

Mental toughness comes from a multi-pronged approach to mental and emotional skills. But what does it mean and how do you get it? Below you'll find some links to give you more information on each aspect.
 
Get goals orientated – goals give motivation and drive. If you want to know a souped up, fun method for goal setting that works, see this video for step-by-step communication with the goal getter of your mind!) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rNwwwa1Pj7I&list=PLl4DWV_g3z4uC5G-AlkVuNtzOlH6-LP_h&index=7&t=5s
Block out distractions. You can do this using one of the Pattern Interrupt methods in this short blog https://www.traceycolenlp.com/affirmations-and-why-they-dont-work-well/
Control your level of ‘stress’. By stress I mean the level of your excitement, as well as nervousness. https://www.traceycolenlp.com/boost-rider-confidence/
Maintain a healthy perfectionism. Unhealthy perfectionism means pressure. Here are ways to alleviate it https://www.traceycolenlp.com/how-to-release-the-pressure-you-put-on-yourself/
Emotional mastery and resilience. These come from clearing away past negative emotions and limiting beliefs.
see https://www.traceycolenlp.com/emotional-resilience-can-come-from-time-line-therapy/
 
How do we then control our emotions in the present? That would be by using a set of techniques called anchoring. You can use one of these techniques: https://youtu.be/1jx0dsYg0TA or https://youtu.be/AEcaM4oapb

Sleep, dreams and your mental health

We know that sleep is restorative and a necessity for mental, emotional and physical well-being. But what about dreams? They are just as vital. Dreams aren't there to re-organise thoughts or put things in their proper place in the mind, they do so much more for our mental health than that.
 
Find out why dreams are crucial
What dreams are really for
Why we forget our dreams
Find out how dreams can be your own personal therapist
If you need more help overcoming some of the issues mentioned - emotional problems, limiting beliefs, misaligned values, why not get in touch?
Info@traceycolenlp.com
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Not more self-limiting thinking?!

Not more self-limiting thinking?! 
Well, actually, yes. There's a lot of it about. One or two of these self-sabotaging ways of being might just resonate with you - they've been my thinking styles in the past.
But how to get rid of them.....listen to find out!
 
If you're interested in working on your self-doubt, self-limiting beliefs, feelings of being stuck/waiting or that you have to be working terrifically hard at something to achieve success, take a look at my coaching. It might do you the world of good! www.traceycolenlp.com
 

How do you re-energise?

Do you need the type of rest that suits you?
Do you re-energise enough?
Do you know how you recharge your batteries?
 
Deep in our unconscious mind lie preference filters. One of these is how we prefer to rest and recuperate. Do you know which type of re-charging you need and do you make sure you get it?
 
Very often, we can be coerced by others to relax in a way that THEY prefer and it doesn't meet our own preference.
 
On the new episode of the Over the Oxer podcast, I chat about the different personality types and a spectrum of the types of restorative rest we need. Are you getting the right amount of the right type for you? Or are you people-pleasing and running yourself ragged??
 
Listen to find out which personality type best fits you and how to find your peace and relaxation!
 
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Controversial limiting beliefs

You'll already know about limiting beliefs such as, "I can't do X" or "I'm not good enough," but on this episode, I'm introducing two very controversial types of limiting beliefs.
* Physiological issues
* Accidents
 
You might take them on board fully, partially or not at all. They are interesting to think about as part of the power of the mind. I explore how far I believe in these beliefs - but what do you believe?
 
Your invited to join my intro into NLP for equestrians day! All on Zoom, 2nd November 2023 10am-4pm UK time. The day will also be available as a recording.
 
Early bird payment until 15th October £60. After that, payment is £75. Accredited by the BHS (British Horse Society). More info https://traceycolenlp.com/product/equestrian-nlp-workshop/

Bringing your brain back from emotional high alert

A quick little episode about soothing the brain's emotional centres - the amygdala. By bringing the amygdala out of the high-alert status, we free up our logical mind and feel more relaxed. Here are two ways to feel more relaxed and to come down from highly emotional negative states.
Please only practise the breathing exercises if you are physically able to do so and are in an environment where you can sit or lie down. 
 
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Are you running towards or away from?

Are you a towards or away-from person? What about the people around you? These are personality traits that make our thinking lean a certain way. 
 
Towards people are positive, look towards goals and can be too gung-ho. Away from people can recognise negatives, risks and errors, they are often pushed into action by fear. If we can strike a balance, we've got it cracked!
 
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Fancy training in NLP? I run weekly group trainings throughout the year, as well as 1:1 training at times to suit you. Have a look at my website under the menu heading 'Live trainings'

Can nerves ever be a good thing?

When I was at Blenheim, Piggy March was asked, "How do you cope with nerves at big competitions?" and she said, "Well, it all depends on the type of nerves." 
On this episode I delve into
Why do some nerves cause us to lose the ability to think?
Why do some people admit that a whiff of nerves helps their performance? Are they right?
How we can dampen down the nerves
I mention the Hakalau technique which can be found in a previous episode or here: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-xi6vq-146519b
 
 
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When to call in a mindset coach.....

You can absolutely do most mindset changes yourself, without a coach, so why would you want to book a session or series of sessions?!
 
Having a coach can mean that you lose the blocks you know about (anxiety, stress, worry, lack of motivation, self-doubt, self-limiting beliefs to name but a few) and you can eliminate the self-sabotage that you're not aware of.
 
This accelerates how you evolve as a rider. It enhances how you think of yourself and impacts how you ride. Having a coach
expedites your progress!
unleashes blocked creativity
gives you accountability
balances your expectations
opens up your neurology
And, if you seek more therapeutic methods for deeper issues, that can also change you as a rider and change your riding.
Tune in to find out why we might want single sessions, coaching packages, deeper interventions and how to choose the right coach for you.
 
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Empowered Equestrian™️Coach Directory can be found at https://www.traceycolenlp.com/empowered-equestrian-coach-directory/
Book a complimentary call https://traceycolenlp.as.me/?appointmentType=10738056 
 
 

Perfectionism

Perfectionism can be of two types - the healthy way to work hard towards a goal or the picky, critical, maladaptive style of perfectionism that leads to emotional, mental and physical stress.
Why do some people lean towards perfectionism?
Why do some people find they obsess in an unhealthy way?
What can you do to prevent and stop the unhealthy style of perfectionism?
 
Listen in and let me know what you think!
 
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Outta control????

Do you ever feel out of control when riding? It's a common problem. As long as you aren't over-horsed and your horse hasn't any physical problems, then the idea of being out of control resides mostly in your mind!
On this episode, I'll share some tips for feeling more in control, more of the time.
 
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Mind-body connections to help you ride even better

The mind-body connection is paramount to any rider. This episode is all about how to make your mind and body work together in synergy to get the very best out of you as a rider. 
 
I talk about my favourite (quick & easy) mind-body connection exercises to achieve better communication with ourselves and more importantly, translate that into better riding experiences.
 
1. Grounding (have a listen to this episode for more detail https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-cmhtt-14543bc)
2. Use of peripheral vision (listen to this episode too https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-xi6vq-146519b)
3. Intent
4. Centring yourself
5. Breathing
 
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With Author, Equestrian and Instructor Christine Olsen

On this episode, I chat with Christine Olsen.
 
Christine has dedicated her career to nurturing harmonious connections between horses and riders. With a solid foundation in equitation, she imparts fundamental principles that foster confidence and trust in both horse and rider.
 
As a certified riding instructor with the American Riding Instructors Association and equine sports massage therapist, Christine is a true advocate of the horse-human bond. She writes for The Riding Instructor magazine alongside other projects, and has recently published her book The Five Senses of Horsemanship.
 
Instagram: www.instgram.com/Christine_eqred 
Christine's book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Five-Senses-Horsemanship-human-sense-horse-sense/dp/173733111X
 
 
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