Over The Oxer

With business and mindset coach, Tara Best

Ont this episode, Tara and I talk mindset, equestrianism, horse ownership and getting up early! Scroll down for Tara's free offer too!
 
Tara is a business and mindset coach that helps both business owners and those in the corporate world remove what's been holding them back, so they can show up confidently and with self-belief to excel in their business, life and career. She's got 10 years experience in the marketing sector, and loves to call on this experience when helping her business-owning clients. She truly believes in the power of subconscious + strategy to create the dream life and business her clients desire. She's also the #1 best selling author of Magnificent Mindset, a lifelong equestrian, horse and dog mum and owner of a farm shop on her farm in The Cotswolds.
 
Tara's offer for my listeners
Tara says, "This is a great resource for business owners who want to unlock their mindset to master their money-making moves! It's a 3 part training series featuring videos, bonus PDFs and a guided visualisation to help you connect to and anchor in your dream vision".
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Seeing or hearing about others’ accidents, tumbles and falls affects YOUR mind too

Take care! Your mind takes everything personally! If you see images of riders having accidents or hear descriptions, your mind thinks that it's YOU who had the accident! It then responds accordingly, aiming to protect you and making you overthink your riding!! Listen to find out how to avoid this.
 
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Free mental imagery / visualisations (no sign-up necessary)
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Free Words Have Power course (no sign-up necessary)
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Buy me a cup of tea!
Some kind people have suggested that my podcast is helping them with their riding and asked how they can help to defray the costs of making the podcast, (mostly editing software etc.). Many, many thanks, you can buy me a cup of tea here: www.buymeacoffee.com/?via=Ny2j49lgXB  
 

Under the radar anxiety: high-functioning anxiety

Feeling stressed, anxious and generally lacking confidence in yourself and how well you ride your horse is a common theme amongst riders and horse owners. Sometimes, riders can function perfectly well in their daily life at home, in the workplace and even on the yard, but they don’t fully enjoy riding, competing and being with their horse in general. Why is that?
I see more and more clients who can get on with their lives, but have a sort of invisible malware running through their mind, a type of anxiety and worry that's always there. This is sometimes due to high-functioning anxiety. 
 
What is high-functioning anxiety and how can we recognise it?
 
Let's connect!
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info@traceycolenlp.com
 
Free mental imagery / visualisations (no sign-up necessary)
https://traceycolenlp.com/free-mental-imagery-recordings/
 
Free Words Have Power course (no sign-up necessary)
https://traceycolenlp.com/free-course-your-words-have-power/
 
Buy me a cup of tea!
Some kind people have suggested that my podcast is helping them with their riding and asked how they can help to defray the costs of making the podcast, (mostly editing software etc.). Many, many thanks, you can buy me a cup of tea here: www.buymeacoffee.com/?via=Ny2j49lgXB  
 

Winter or summer SAD - seasonal blues

Have you got winter blues (in autumn!)? Or is a change of season filling you with dread? Seasonal affected disorder (SAD) can occur in the winter or summer and it's all to do with the light. Too much or too little wreaks havoc with our circadian rhythms.
Find out why most advice isn't the best for equestrians and what we riders can do in summer or winter to avoid feeling so low.
 
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The most powerful NLP technique?

I think this is the most powerful technique in NLP. When I first trained in NLP, I thought it was an interesting concept, but I missed the incredible changes it can bring about. I'm still experimenting with it, it's fun, will you join me with Perception is Projection?
 
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Do you have a worry cup?

Do you have a worry cup? Much like horses, when our worry cup is full, the slightest thing can cause us to tailspin. How do we fill our worry cup? How do we empty it? Listen to find out more!
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Equestrians chasing their tails: the myth of multitasking

Multitasking is a complete myth! It's a term meant for computers, not humans. We are more mon-taskers if anything. However, we do strive to multitask and this can be our undoing - it wrecks grey matter, causes anxiety and stress and is ultimately inefficient. Still want to multitask?!
 
 
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Some kind people have suggested that my podcast is helping them with their riding and asked how they can help to defray the costs of making the podcast, (mostly editing software etc.). Many, many thanks, you can buy me a cup of tea here: buymeacoffee.com/?via=Ny2j49lgXB
 

With Rhea Freeman - Award-winning PR & social media expert, best selling author and Master NLP Coach

I'm excited to welcome Rhea Freeman onto the podcast. Rhea is a multi-award-winning PR adviser, social media expert, ILM level 7 executive coach and mentor, NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Coach. She hosts the award-winning Small & Supercharged Podcast and has a best-selling book of the same name. She supports small businesses across sectors in their overall development and growth with a special focus on the PR, social media and marketing side.
 
We chat about mindset (Rhea started out life as a riding coach and in business marketing for an equestrian company, so she knows equestrians and equestrian business mindsets!), social media, being a brand ambassador or influencer and maintaining a great mindset whilst on socials.
 
Her book, Small and Supercharged can be purchased at https://www.amazon.co.uk/kindle-dbs/entity/author/B0B52CN591?_encoding=UTF8&node=266239&offset=0&pageSize=12&searchAlias=stripbooks&sort=author-sidecar-rank&page=1&langFilter=default#formatSelectorHeader
 
www.rheafreemanpr.co.uk
www.facebook.com/rheafreemanpr
www.instagram.com/rheafreemanpr
Rhea's also on LinkedIn
 

5 Ways to Get Mentally Tough

Mental toughness comes from a multi-pronged approach to mental and emotional skills. But what does it mean and how do you get it? Below you'll find some links to give you more information on each aspect.
 
Get goals orientated – goals give motivation and drive. If you want to know a souped up, fun method for goal setting that works, see this video for step-by-step communication with the goal getter of your mind!) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rNwwwa1Pj7I&list=PLl4DWV_g3z4uC5G-AlkVuNtzOlH6-LP_h&index=7&t=5s
Block out distractions. You can do this using one of the Pattern Interrupt methods in this short blog https://www.traceycolenlp.com/affirmations-and-why-they-dont-work-well/
Control your level of ‘stress’. By stress I mean the level of your excitement, as well as nervousness. https://www.traceycolenlp.com/boost-rider-confidence/
Maintain a healthy perfectionism. Unhealthy perfectionism means pressure. Here are ways to alleviate it https://www.traceycolenlp.com/how-to-release-the-pressure-you-put-on-yourself/
Emotional mastery and resilience. These come from clearing away past negative emotions and limiting beliefs.
see https://www.traceycolenlp.com/emotional-resilience-can-come-from-time-line-therapy/
 
How do we then control our emotions in the present? That would be by using a set of techniques called anchoring. You can use one of these techniques: https://youtu.be/1jx0dsYg0TA or https://youtu.be/AEcaM4oapb

Sleep, dreams and your mental health

We know that sleep is restorative and a necessity for mental, emotional and physical well-being. But what about dreams? They are just as vital. Dreams aren't there to re-organise thoughts or put things in their proper place in the mind, they do so much more for our mental health than that.
 
Find out why dreams are crucial
What dreams are really for
Why we forget our dreams
Find out how dreams can be your own personal therapist
If you need more help overcoming some of the issues mentioned - emotional problems, limiting beliefs, misaligned values, why not get in touch?
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Not more self-limiting thinking?!

Not more self-limiting thinking?! 
Well, actually, yes. There's a lot of it about. One or two of these self-sabotaging ways of being might just resonate with you - they've been my thinking styles in the past.
But how to get rid of them.....listen to find out!
 
If you're interested in working on your self-doubt, self-limiting beliefs, feelings of being stuck/waiting or that you have to be working terrifically hard at something to achieve success, take a look at my coaching. It might do you the world of good! www.traceycolenlp.com
 

How do you re-energise?

Do you need the type of rest that suits you?
Do you re-energise enough?
Do you know how you recharge your batteries?
 
Deep in our unconscious mind lie preference filters. One of these is how we prefer to rest and recuperate. Do you know which type of re-charging you need and do you make sure you get it?
 
Very often, we can be coerced by others to relax in a way that THEY prefer and it doesn't meet our own preference.
 
On the new episode of the Over the Oxer podcast, I chat about the different personality types and a spectrum of the types of restorative rest we need. Are you getting the right amount of the right type for you? Or are you people-pleasing and running yourself ragged??
 
Listen to find out which personality type best fits you and how to find your peace and relaxation!
 
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Controversial limiting beliefs

You'll already know about limiting beliefs such as, "I can't do X" or "I'm not good enough," but on this episode, I'm introducing two very controversial types of limiting beliefs.
* Physiological issues
* Accidents
 
You might take them on board fully, partially or not at all. They are interesting to think about as part of the power of the mind. I explore how far I believe in these beliefs - but what do you believe?
 
Your invited to join my intro into NLP for equestrians day! All on Zoom, 2nd November 2023 10am-4pm UK time. The day will also be available as a recording.
 
Early bird payment until 15th October £60. After that, payment is £75. Accredited by the BHS (British Horse Society). More info https://traceycolenlp.com/product/equestrian-nlp-workshop/

Bringing your brain back from emotional high alert

A quick little episode about soothing the brain's emotional centres - the amygdala. By bringing the amygdala out of the high-alert status, we free up our logical mind and feel more relaxed. Here are two ways to feel more relaxed and to come down from highly emotional negative states.
Please only practise the breathing exercises if you are physically able to do so and are in an environment where you can sit or lie down. 
 
Have a look at my new website here www.traceycolenlp.com and contact me with any comments or experiences you'd like to share.

Are you running towards or away from?

Are you a towards or away-from person? What about the people around you? These are personality traits that make our thinking lean a certain way. 
 
Towards people are positive, look towards goals and can be too gung-ho. Away from people can recognise negatives, risks and errors, they are often pushed into action by fear. If we can strike a balance, we've got it cracked!
 
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